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11-05-2019 09:52 AM
11-05-2019 09:52 AM
Feeling lost
I’m new here
i guess I needed somewhere to turn .
im in a relationship with the most loving man .
when he is sober we are very happy. When he drinks it’s a different story. Sometimes he is very loving and when his drinking has gone too far . He is horrible . Says nasty things and tries to blame me . Yesterday I came home , he was having a “couple” beers with his mate. I’d fallen asleep, I didn’t plan to but it was dark when he got home . He tripped on the step and started yelling about the house being in darkness . He just looked at me when I told him I’d fallen asleep. Is this type of behaviour abusive . I’m not sure anymore. He isnt violent with me but I feel lost and confused. It’s like he is 2 different men
the loving man and a drunk man
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11-05-2019 12:18 PM
11-05-2019 12:18 PM
Re: Feeling lost
Hi @Helmar, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story here. It's important to know that abuse isn't just in the form of physical violence, but also can be emotional as well. Do you have anyone close to you that you can disclose this to?
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11-05-2019 12:18 PM
11-05-2019 12:18 PM
Re: Feeling lost
Hi @Helmar, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story here. It's important to know that abuse isn't just in the form of physical violence, but also can be emotional as well. Do you have anyone close to you that you can disclose this to?
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11-05-2019 12:34 PM
11-05-2019 12:34 PM
Re: Feeling lost
No not really
i keep to myself and those who know anything about me are too judgemental.
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11-05-2019 05:38 PM
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11-05-2019 06:56 PM
11-05-2019 06:56 PM
Re: Feeling lost
You've taken a step in the right direction by reaching out for advice and support @Helmar. Is your partner aware of how nasty he can be when he's drinking, have you spoken much about how it makes you feel?
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11-05-2019 08:32 PM
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11-05-2019 08:34 PM
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12-05-2019 02:27 AM
12-05-2019 02:27 AM
Re: Feeling lost
@Helmar Hi Helmar I have to be honest here which won't sound pretty but my father was a alcoholic and was abusive when drunk and it was not pretty. It, the relationship, will not improve whilst he is drinking and if you are thinking of bringing children into the relationship think again children should not be brought up in a abusive household period. My advice is to get out now and don't look back no matter how apologetic he is he is a abusive drunk and will remain so. greenpeaxx
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12-05-2019 04:55 AM
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