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26-10-2016 10:07 AM
26-10-2016 10:07 AM
Boundaries
Hi
I know boundaries is a real issue for BPD people and it is a real issue for me - I tend to tell everyone everything about me and dont know where the STOP button is. I try at work do not engage in social chit chat and mainly chat about work to avoid this but it doesnt always work. I think part of it comes from the need to JUSTIFY myself and when I answer something I tend to rather than say yes or no go into a long winded story about myself. I dont tell peole I have BPD but will share information that my partner says is private.
Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to cope with this.
Thanks
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26-10-2016 05:35 PM
26-10-2016 05:35 PM
Re: Boundaries
Sorry @Change123 I can't give any tips on this one because I am really bad with boundaries.
I struggle with boundaries especially emailing my therapist. I tend to act out like a little child pushing and pushing.
hopefully someone else can come on here and give some tips.
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29-10-2016 01:42 PM
29-10-2016 01:42 PM
Re: Boundaries
Hey @Change123
I was wondering what concerns you the most about your boundaries? Do you have a problem with how much you share? Have you sat down with your partner and talked about what is and isn't okay to share?
What are your thoughts?
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31-10-2016 03:58 PM
31-10-2016 03:58 PM
Re: Boundaries
Hi @Former-Member
Yes I have actually talked with my partner and I know he is an extremely private person but sometimes I have no intention of talking private stuff and it just comes out -yes I share too much and I constantly justify everything. I can understand the justify stuff but not saying too much. My partner thinks its because of the BPD thing that we all want to be included so I use that as a tool to get included in conversations?? I can see that I do that sometimes but others I dont realise until its too late.