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[Former-Member]

Hey Lovely how are you? 

@Snowie  sending you lots of love and hugs my friend💖

[Former-Member]

Hey sweetie, I will be around for awhile if you still want to chat. 

sending you lots of hugs @Lotusgirl 

[Former-Member]

Hi @Lee82 , how has your day been? 

Huge hugs💖

[Snowie]

Hey @Former-Member 

I'm okish, muddled up day

How are you going tonight?

[Former-Member]

I am sorry you had a muddled day my friend. I am doing a little better, I had a session with my counsellor via Zoom and it helped a little. 

I hope you can have a restful night 💕 @Snowie 

[Snowie]

Glad you are doing a little better @Former-Member Glad your counsellor was beneficial for you. My psych still hasn't gotten on zoom and still doing appt. by phone. Just not the same.

I hope your night is restful too 💜

[Lotusgirl]

@Former-Member  hi Izzy can we start with the ocd. It's on my brain crushing me. I did the crotch hold as you know. Where you hold baby hand between legs. I'm not a good person. 

[Former-Member]

Ok babe, you are holding baby this way while they have a nappy on right! So it really doesn't matter where your hands are because they are only touching the nappy or clothes. This hold doesn't make you a bad mum. I know when your OCD is out of hand that it is too hard for you to get that and that doesn't make you a bad person either. I have little experience with OCD, but one of the other members did say that nothing anyone could say to you will help. But know I will always answer this question no matter how many times you ask me, my friend. I have done this hold many times and never felt bad for it.  I battled the demons of turning into those that hurt me when my children where little, even now I am hyper aware when I am with my great nieces and nephews and sometimes I won't even hug them, but for all my faults I know 100% that I am NOT a monster and I can tell by how much this is distressing for you that you also are NOT a bad person. 

@Lotusgirl , you need to be gentle with yourself 💖💖

[Former-Member]

Hey @Shaz51  how are you tonight💖

[Lotusgirl]

@Former-Member  ok so you're definitely sure you've definitely crotch held babies and it's totally safe and even good for the child. Her mother said it was fine. That has to mean something yeah?