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[Former-Member]

Yes to both @Shaz51 👍

[Shaz51]

We both need a good night sleep now my @Former-Member  xxxx

I have not been sleeping well 

[Shaz51]

Hello @Former-Member , @Jacques , @Adge , @outlander , @Former-Member , @Smc , @greenpea , @Appleblossom , @Owlunar , @Determined 

Well mum's arm is a bit of a mess , all redressed today and then to the doctors on Friday

Hope the AB's work quickly

Had my fasting blood test , get the results next Thursday with the kidney specialist

Mr shaz is feeling soo tired and had it , he felt soo tired while mum and I were at the hospital

And then he fell asleep after lunch xxxxxx 

[Jacques]

Hi my beautiful friend @Shaz51 i really hope your mum will be ok. as we age we got lots of medical conditions. it is just part of life. hugs my friend. please you and Mr Shaz get rest when you can, im sure you are both having relstless nights too, which are not helping. i have my fingers crossed your kidneys will be ok. 

your often in my thoughts 

Jacques

[Shaz51]

thank you my  wonderful @Jacques 

i am having restless nights my friend 

Mr shaz takes his meds and he sleeps all night 

trying to work out which is best for everyone xx

[Jacques]

i know how you feel, i am having a lot of restless nights too. 

im glad Mr Shaz is getting plenty of sleep. 

you need to take time out for you too, if you are not at 100% you can't be 100% for your mum and Mr Shaz. so please put some time aside for yourself. maybe a bath, book or good movie. just some you time

[Former-Member]

Hi @Shaz51 

Sorry to hear that your Mum really did a job on her arm when she fell last week.  Sounds messy.  Lets hope the antibiotics kick in quickly and allow things to heal up soon.  Hopefully by Friday when she is back to the Dr, things will be under control again.

Sounds as though both you and Mr Shaz are over stretched and over committed right now. So much going on and some big decisions to be made.  Its a difficult time all round.  

Thinking of you today and hoping things start to ease off a bit for you soon.  Bring on retirement from work?  Full time carer for Mum and Mr Shaz .... you already do it all anyway.  Perhaps go back to Centrelink and try to make things official. Once less thing for you both to worry about.  Meanwhile I hope you are finding some time for yourself.

Sherry 😁💕

[Shaz51]

@Former-Member, @Jacques , @Adge , @outlander , @Former-Member , @Faith-and-Hope 

why would a love one say about moving into a MIL when for the last  2 days mr shaz has fallen asleep 

I knew it would be too much for him xxxx

[Former-Member]

I dont know @Shaz51  ... but clearly Mr Shaz is very tired.  Everything that is happening is having a telling affect on him too.  It doesnt mean he wasnt genuine in his offer to move into your Mums place.  Let things settle for a few days and then look at all your options again, and talk between yourselves to work out whats best for all. Or a middle-road option if not everyone is in agreement.  Meanwhile ... please be careful not to overdo things yourself.  Your health is not the most robust, and you certainly do not want to end up in hospital yourself.  You do so much for so many, but sometimes you have to take a step back and lets others do more.  Take some time out for yourself every day.

Sherry 💖😃

[Former-Member]

@Shaz51 

It is possible that Mr Shaz is thinking of you in relation to moving in with Mum, whether or not this would work in practice may be in question. Is upstairs/downstairs adequate distance for your own privacy?