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29-04-2019 01:00 PM
29-04-2019 01:00 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
Thank you for sharing, being able to articulate our feelings is a positive in itself and important to do so even though today you have unshed tears.
You mentioned that for various reasons you are not able to keep a gratitude diary as such but here on the forums you have posted things that you are grateful for, and I thank you for that too.
One thing I am grateful for, that despite the huge challenges you have in the setting of undiagnosed mental illness, you are a wonderful support here on the forum and I have certainly valued your advice and have utilised relevant tips that you have given.
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29-04-2019 05:17 PM
29-04-2019 05:17 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
I agree with @Former-Member
@Faith-and-Hope you are a wonderful support here on the forum and I have certainly valued your advice and have utilised relevant tips that you have given me over the years
people do make a big difference in how you feel too @Former-Member
as Mr shaz`s family , MIL and SIL`S are all soo negative , that since I have married mr shaz he does not like to spend much tim with his mum or sisters -- which is sad , but i totally understand why
as my mum and our house has more postive vibes and mr shaz loves it
my extented family members can speak too quickly before thinking
I still smile at my step children when we ( mr shaz and I) will be encouraging , supporting them in life
like my step S3 said (WOW , his real mum knocked him down with words )
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29-04-2019 05:24 PM
29-04-2019 05:24 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
Shifting our focus can include thinking before we speak @Shaz51 . Do you keep a gratitude journal?
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29-04-2019 05:30 PM
29-04-2019 05:30 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
Do you keep a gratitude journal? --- no @Former-Member , I have thought of doing one
one of my customers is 40 and she had 2 sons and she is marrying a man who has 2 sons , and we clean their house twice a week
well she was showing me her Gratitude Journal and it has interesting tips and hints
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29-04-2019 06:22 PM
29-04-2019 06:22 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
Thank you for sharing that infographic about negative thinking @Former-Member. Sometimes it just takes an extra minute or two to get out of that negative headspace and to reframe your thoughts, so you aren't reacting to what could be an imagined scenario. What do you think? Have you got a tip to help in that instance?
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29-04-2019 06:48 PM
29-04-2019 06:48 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
that is a good question @Ali11
like my mum instilled in me "that this will pass "
also when my mind says "Why Me " , I answer with "why not me"
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29-04-2019 06:55 PM
29-04-2019 06:55 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
Why me is always the first response isn't it @Shaz51? Taking that extra time means that you can really think through how your reaction should be.
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29-04-2019 07:22 PM
29-04-2019 07:22 PM
Re: Talking about building emotional resilience
The best case scenario rarely comes to my mind first @Ali11 , imagining the worst case scenario and all sorts of equally distressing alternatives was one of the things that contributed to carer stress for me.
To help combat this type of thinking, looking at the facts and asking questions that may help ameliorate the situation is often helpful. By deliberately changing my focus and asking what could go right and what steps can be taken to move toward that has also helped change my mindset.
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29-04-2019 08:11 PM
29-04-2019 08:11 PM
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Those are some great tips @Former-Member, how long did you have to practice this before it came naturally? I think we as humans are geared more to jump to the worst case (fight or flight response right?).
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29-04-2019 08:18 PM
29-04-2019 08:18 PM
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It doesn't come naturally @Ali11
It is intentional.