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[MysticRose]

I hope this makes sense… 

my partner has been diagnosed with psychosis and has spent time in hospital and was in a community plan for support. However he is still experiencing acute psychotic episode and has drove to another state and is stating to me a lot of things that are not true. He has taken everything I have done to support and help and has turned it to me being against him and to ‘destroy’ his life or play games being manipulative. These are things such as doing more around the house, with children etc. so he can simply go to work and come home to reduce stress on him. 

My question is, when he comes out of his psychotic episode (he is taking medication still to my knowledge) will be still believe this is all true? Or will he recognise what I have done to support and come back to me and the kids. 

im at a loss and I don’t know whether to give the relationship up or to hold on to when he comes out… it’s breaking me as I know it’s not him but I love him and want to be with him. 

[Former-Member]

Hi @MysticRose 

I feel for you.

So hard when the relationship is close like a husband.

Re: My question is, when he comes out of his psychotic episode (he is taking medication still to my knowledge) will be still believe this is all true? Or will he recognise what I have done to support and come back to me and the kids

There are more than 2 options. He may not remember the details or reasons. He may need further changes to medication to get it right. Some times GP tries different things. Sometimes we need a new GP.

As far as holding up the relationship goes. I admire and respect your wisdom knowing "it is not him". Dont worry what general people say. You love him and want to be with him and that is nice.

Hang in there. Let medications balance out. Remember medications may mess with him too. Dryness, apetite, dizzy, many strange and new things he may be feeling.

He is lucky to have you whether he realises it or not. 

[MysticRose]

Thank you. It’s just so hard with him being so far away now and everything causing more damage. I have explained to my son that his dad is sick and is just ‘getting help that he needs’ so he understands but I have a 1 year old baby who doesn’t. 

It’s also incredibly hard when he is believing all these things about me, I’m holding on and talking to him when he calls (when he needs someone to be there for him) and just hope that when his medications level out he may realise and come home. If not then at least he has got the help he needs so he doesn’t need to suffer anymore. 

I just don’t know if he is going to keep these beliefs or he will realise after his episode is done. 

[tyme]

Hey @MysticRose ,

Welcome to the forums. I'm sorry to hear how hard it must be for you right now, especially when you have young children at home. 

Although I have not had a psychotic episode myself, from be experience, currently, it is his mental condition speaking, and not himself. In other words, clarity will come when he is out of this episode. 

As @Former-Member  mentioned, if it is prolonged, he may need another medication review. There are so many meds out there, and it's important to find one that works. Specialists try the less potent ones before jumping to the stronger meds - but some ultimately need the stronger ones.

We can't name or talk about medications here, so it's best you speak to his treating team. 

At the same time, I encourage you to reach out for support yourself e.g. The ARFMI Carer support line 

on 1300 554 660

Please take care,

tyme

[Former-Member]

Hi @MysticRose 

We all need to vent. Sounds like kids are too young to tell.

Sane Counselling, Lifeline and this forum should be places to vent.

My experience is those closest suffer most and take the brunt. So welcome to the club of empathetic and caring people who are often forgotten and are there for it all. Do not expect a thank you. That is a bonus. Focus on recovery. You need time to rest your brain. Even 5 minutes of a 1 hour movie is a start.

Re: I just don’t know if he is going to keep these beliefs or he will realise after his episode is done. 

That is tomorrows problem. Does it matter?

Focus on balanced medication and going forward.