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04-06-2019 10:08 PM
04-06-2019 10:08 PM
Re: burnout
How is your week so far @outlander? Have you managed to reserve some time for yourself?
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04-06-2019 10:33 PM
04-06-2019 10:33 PM
Re: burnout
Hey @Ali11 no not really. Its mostly quiet of a night though where i can catch up with friends here and play a few phone games and music.
Ill have a busy few weeks but then it dies down abit so can plan some quiet time more then
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05-06-2019 06:18 PM
05-06-2019 06:18 PM
Re: burnout
Hello @outlander
First and foremost I can see that you are now a Community Guide.
I am ecstatic. You have been performing that role for some time now and now have recognition officially.
Remind yourself of this achievement when everything piles up and you are being pulled in every direction.
Everything that others have said is spot on.
As you already know Carers Australia have a helpline..Talking to another impartial human can help
There is also the Alzheimers Society who have information on dementia also.
I did some study with them years ago.
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05-06-2019 06:28 PM
05-06-2019 06:28 PM
Re: burnout
I hope that my above response does not come across as blunt or uncaring...or diminishing in any way.. such valid feelings that you are experiencing..
I am out of touch writing on here...
I do feel estranged from the forums as well.
As you mean so much to me I just wanted to check and reaffirm that what you are experiencing is definitely burnout as you described.
Vital that you acknowledge this....not push yourself any more ...
I would even suggest getting a doctor's certificate "unfit for work"....until whatever date your doctor deems and putting it under your family's front door.
This of course might cause you further grief so take it as tongue in cheek if is the case.
Sometimes relatives take advantage of those of us who have empathy and compassion.
Assertion...no nonsense style can work..Reality.
Please take care xx
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05-06-2019 06:52 PM
05-06-2019 06:52 PM
Re: burnout
Thank you for the recognition and congrats. Much appreciated.
And no, your posts have never come as unkind, hollow or blunt or anything but helpful and caring.
Is there anything I can do to help you feel more connected here? Is anything I could help you with at all?
I find it really hard to talk on the phone especially to helplines. I really wish Carers Aus would set up like a webchat thingy too. Thank you for linking in the Alzheimers Society though, I hadnt thought to look for information on there so ill do some reading tonight.
Im thinking I will be speaking to his gp soon, hes due for a flu shot and a checkup in general and I think I would like them to reassess his mental state since it seems to be worsening.
Ive been trying to work up the courage to get some more help for him which would help me too but health profressionals dont seem to be working well with me and such a lack of family support too- I mentioned a few things in passing and got the 'your his carer he doesnt need anyhting else
speech or the if you do that your on your own speech. Makes it really quite tough to try and do.
Things with him seem to be getting more and more challanging especially mentally. He has started name calling- often swear sorts of word when hes angry or frustrated at me. Hes been overly stressed over a slight misscommunication between himself and someone else and has been abit of a mess but in turn its taking me down too, I know he doesnt mean to do that but when he needs support basically 24/7 right now its becoming much harder. I even tried to open up to my mother but she thought it was funny and the more I tell her the more angry she gets with me so its not working well in my favour.
Thank you for caring and validating how ive been feeling @Sophia1 im really pleased to see you pop up on the forum💙💚💜❤
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05-06-2019 07:46 PM
05-06-2019 07:46 PM
Re: burnout
That sounds good to look forward to @outlander, have you thought about what you'll do to treat yourself once those busy weeks have passed? Music is always helpful, what is your go to music to relax?
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05-06-2019 07:59 PM
05-06-2019 07:59 PM
Re: burnout
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05-06-2019 09:58 PM
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06-06-2019 01:45 AM
06-06-2019 01:45 AM
Re: burnout
Hello @outlander
Thank you also for acknowledging my response.....means so much to me also...ditto really..
The hardest part of dementia or alzheimers is realisation....that our loved ones have this illness and the ultimate symptoms...
My husband and I have a close friend diagnosed with Alzheimers and are witnessing a very quick decline in cognitive recognition as they now categorise.
When there is no other choice (so hard to reach this stage...love sometimes gets in the way)
You are noticing a decline.... Sadly this is the inevitable..
As much as we wish otherwise....life chooses..
Thus you too at this point ....as painful as it seems... need to choose ......love...devotion...admiration...discussion so very important...other words.... to help with his transition to the next stage of his care...
A very sensitive time...
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06-06-2019 04:29 PM