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14-07-2020 04:43 PM
14-07-2020 04:43 PM
Unsympathetic spouse
My bf does not understand mental illness at all. It hurts and sometimes triggers me. Please send advice x
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14-07-2020 05:14 PM
14-07-2020 05:14 PM
Re: Unsympathetic spouse
Hi @Luxsux
It is hard when our significant others do not understand our mental illness.
Do you have any supports in place like a psychologist or/and a psychiatrist.
I ask this because I found it useful for my husband to come to some of my pschologist and psychiatrist sessions in order for him to gain a better understanding of my mental illness. I organised it with my therapists before hand so they knew he was coming.
It did help him understand more and also helped him in knowing how to help my better.
I also directed him to some websites so he could read abo9ut c-ptsd, depression and anxiety.
I hope this helps you @Luxsux
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14-07-2020 05:27 PM
14-07-2020 05:27 PM
Re: Unsympathetic spouse
Sorry to hear, @Luxsux . Can you give him some brief information to read? SANE has factsheets on a lot of topics...you could see if they have one on your illness(es). If you click on 'Information and stories' on the top left of this page, then click on 'Factsheets and Guides', they have the whole list.
Good luck...
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14-07-2020 10:21 PM
14-07-2020 10:21 PM
Re: Unsympathetic spouse
Hi @Luxsux
I just wanted to reach out to you and offer some support
I'm so sorry to hear that your spouse is finding it difficult to understand your lived experience of mental illness. It's completely understandable that you would feel extremely hurt and I would imagine perhaps very alone as well.
A gentle curiosity came over me and (only if you feel safe and comfortable to share) but I just wondered if this was something that your spouse would like to understand?
In my experience, this has been one of the most important questions that I've asked my loved ones.
Sometimes people have been very open and interested to try to understand my lived experience of mental illness and at other times, they have communicated that these conversations are too overwhelming for them.
How they respond guides me in terms of how I then try to support their understanding of what it's like to live in my world.
I hope that this provides a starting point and please reach back when you feel able to do so.
Thinking of you and sending gentle hugs ...
ShiningStar