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13-07-2019 06:29 PM
13-07-2019 06:29 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
thank you @Owlunar @Appleblossom sending you both tnder hugs xoxo
you are my strenght in my lfe thank you my friends xoxoxoxo
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13-07-2019 06:37 PM
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Thank you @Ali11
I rode my RD 400 motorbike to visit him from other side of town, do dinner, sleep the night and then go to work and then someone else did the next night. and we rotated it round, he had a lot of kids etc ... I was the oldest and only grandchild involved, but I guess it has brought home the level of lack of care, I and my siblings had from the extended family. Were they judgemental cos I rode a motorbike, who knows. I was taking reponsibility and living within my means without anybody's help. So now I guess its thumbs down at them ....
Yep stories can help with identity ... @Owlunar
My father's parents and their stories were lost to him and the later generations, apart from snippets gained from family history research. Dad never knew them and I had more access to files cos of changing legislation.
My mother and grandmother were not big talkers so that grandfather's stories were the only sense of oral family history I had. My brother and sister who suicided were still in their foster families at the time .. so they did not have that groundedness ... I benefitted from ....and by the time they were looking for it and I tried to share with them .... they were already too disturbed for anything to help them.
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13-07-2019 06:39 PM
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13-07-2019 07:46 PM
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Thanks @outlander
Well maybe they were not too disturbed, maybe the services were just not up to it.
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13-07-2019 08:05 PM
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13-07-2019 08:16 PM
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You have made a difference for me @outlander
.... you perservere ....and are kind and caring.
Time to listen to music on that other thread. and let @Shaz51 have a good night.
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13-07-2019 08:30 PM
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13-07-2019 08:36 PM
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13-07-2019 08:37 PM
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The motorbike must've been a fun way to get across town as well @Appleblossom. Losing the stories of our families only takes a generation, it's quite sad. A lot is recorded now of course, but older generation stories are fascinating, searching old newspaper websites is interesting sometimes in that regard. Sorry to hear about the timing with trying to reconnect with your siblings, it must've been incredibly difficult seeing family suffer and not be able to help them
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13-07-2019 08:41 PM
13-07-2019 08:41 PM
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thank you, im just doing what everyone else does-survive but live where we can xo