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@Judi9877Nice to hear from you in this part of the forum. I'm so sorry to hear your friend is having legal difficulties. It's always hard to stand back when our natural instinct is to jump in and help them.
I have a family member in a very complicated and difficult situation. While it doesn't effect me, nor do I let it, it worries my mother immensely. I've told my mother that all she can do is be there when she can, and be there if everything goes belly up. While she has every right to worry, that's her choice too. As it is yours. But when it becomes detrimental to yourself, that's not great.
If you can, spend some quality time with your friend. Don't be tempted to discuss her problem though. Make the time you have together special. Like go for a coffee, shopping (or window shopping), go to a movie (you can't talk there!).
I told
@outlander here to make herself a worry box. So when she's getting ready for bed, she writes down her worries of the day, puts it in the box and after that, you can't think of them anymore. I've used the Calm App too to help me sleep & I liked it so much that I paid for the full version. With that you get bedtime stories, which I love. I never get to hear the end as I've nodded off!
I also use a free colouring app called Happy Colours. I've tried quite a few other ones, but this is the best. There is daily colouring in, and lots of other choices. I often fall asleep and drop the phone when doing these. Also great when you are waiting on an appointment.
When you find yourself getting really anxious, splashing cold water on your face can help to reset the flight or fight response. Thus calming you down.
The key is to find what works for you. It mightn't work all the time but it's good to have enough options to choose from.
I hope your friend gets everything sorted and under control in time.
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