19-09-2019 08:47 PM
19-09-2019 08:47 PM
love your responses @Maggie @greenpea @outlander
at the same time not diminishing others whom I have tagged not responding..
as I know that there are times where i myself and others are just not able for whatever reason..
perhaps even unable to.. understand this also
I cancelled a few carers outings at the last minute which I regret so much.. they were outings that so appealed..
I just could not do it..
how sad is that...
how pathetic is where I go...I am crying as I write...what is so bad about me that I cannot even go on an outing with others who have some issues in their lives...why am I so much more indespicable..
there are very quiet people whom I talk to who now seek me out ...they are so interesting to listen to..
what is wrong with the rest of the world.
19-09-2019 09:20 PM
19-09-2019 09:20 PM
19-09-2019 09:35 PM
19-09-2019 09:35 PM
hello @outlander
thank you
I had cancelled several outings due to my own state of depression..
I did go to a lunch event for the "mental health group today"
there was a lady whom I have wanted to spend more time getting to know from other excursions and that was a blessing as she is so interesting to talk to..as well as wanting to keep in contact...fabulous for me as interests are the same..
ended up at husband's sport club...sadly heard more bad news...
friend with a certain condition wanting to go away together..I am more than happy.. interfere with sports????also to be fair husband involved with new house build...
so I need to be ???
19-09-2019 09:41 PM
19-09-2019 09:41 PM
19-09-2019 09:57 PM
19-09-2019 09:57 PM
thank you @outlander
I am not into having nails done scenario..I just paint my own laugh..
husband is working very hard as well as learning that he needs to step back and let builders do their stuff...
I did manage to go to lunch with group not sure if I have already said this or not...state of mind...
Many changes are happening within carers field and this particular lady exchanged phone numbers.
I have already started a group meeting for lunches ongoing which is working very well.
A lovely lunch today ...She has exchanged phone nos and is keen to be involved with the group that I have already created..
So promising times ahead....
How simple....
at the same time how ridiculous that there is not more of this?????
19-09-2019 10:04 PM
19-09-2019 10:04 PM
19-09-2019 10:26 PM
19-09-2019 10:26 PM
sorry to confuse you @outlander @Maggie @greenpea @Adge
which is no small wonder considering my writing at the moment...
husband does not step back in any shape form or matter re build of new home ...on top of everything...one of a kind who is gifted in just about everything manually!! he practically built his last home...excelled in sport..rotary...now latest sport interest...
Myself... zilch interest in playing sport...hmm tried it once did not work...team membership at work yes...in private time...no...definite no...not happeing....
therein is the problem.....
yes he is doing some....?
letting go of all other is an issue..????
Compromise is the new word.. laugh..!!!!
at the same time I cannot gather the enthusiasm that I should have...
I cannot let go of my family member ...despite younger son tells me...not that younger son gains financially..he just sees the emotional debris,..
So?
Where am I now?
19-09-2019 11:34 PM
20-09-2019 01:58 AM
20-09-2019 01:58 AM
@Sophia1 Oh Sophia1 I feel your pain. Wish I could make it go away or take on some of it for you. Love peaxxxx
20-09-2019 02:03 AM
20-09-2019 02:03 AM
@Sophia1 I couldn't let go either ....
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